Sex fights illness

When, for example, scientists studied around 2400 men in Caerphilly, Wales, over a 10-year period, it found that those who had more orgasms were 50 per cent less likely to have died.

This lowering of risk was particularly marked when it came to heart attacks, leading scientists to endorse the idea that sex can be excellent exercise.

Another way in which sex shows its disease-fighting qualities is in the role it appears to have in protecting against prostate cancer.

Studies have shown that frequent ejaculations appear to reduce the risk of this type of cancer, which affects around 20,000 men in Britain every year.

Research carried out in Boston looked at 30,000 men aged between 46 and 81. It found that a higher number of ejaculations was linked with a decreased risk of cancer of up to 33 per cent.

This follows a smaller Australian study that appeared to show that men who masturbated frequently in earlier life were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer when they got older.

This phenomenon has been attributed to the theory that orgasm reduces the development of calcifications in the prostate that have been linked with cancer.

Are you a good kisser

My friend Sean thought his date went well—she laughed at his jokes, ordered dessert, and even asked him up to her apartment for a midnight make-out session. But it’s been over a week and she hasn’t returned his calls. Sean’s starting to wonder why. Little does he know, the answer’s in his kiss. I should know. I made the mistake of kissing him once.

Plenty of people worry about whether they’re good in bed, but few worry about their skills when it comes to their triple-tongue-swirl maneuvers. So people like Sean are often left questioning what went wrong on a date, even though the reason is quite literally under their noses. Sadly, no one wants to tell anyone they have the kiss of death, which means that unless you’ve been praised for your soft lips or tantalizing tongue, someone might be cringing about your not-so-sensual smooches as well. Here’s a cheat sheet of oral offenses, so you can avoid being thought of as a cringe-worthy kisser.

The Vampire Lip-Sucker
When my date Andrew first started biting and sucking on my lower lip, I tried to redirect the kiss by going for his upper lip. But when he kept doing it and my lip began to throb, I pulled away with a not-so subtle, “Ow.” He didn’t take the hint and with each tug, my lip grew rawer. The next day, at a family barbecue, everyone wondered why I had a purple lower lip.

Sure, a soft bite on the lip can be a turn on, but 10 in a row can leave your date looking like she got punched in the mouth. The first sign of a bad kisser is the inability to respond to feedback (sorry, Andrew; it’s true). If you’re not getting a positive response, don’t be afraid to stray from a move that you thought worked on someone else. Bad kissers often make the mistake of hoping you’ll grow to like whatever weird thing they’re doing. This almost never works and almost always leaves your lover bemoaning your inexperience.

Unlocking the Secret to Love

"A fulfilling love life. How can I have one? How can I get the most out of sex?" University students worldwide ask these questions. Why? Because both pleasure and emotional fulfillment are important facets of sex.

Sex is often on our minds. According to two psychologists at the universities of Vermont and South Carolina, 95% of people think about sex at least once each day.{1} You might wonder, "You mean that 5% of the people don't?"

One way not to have a dynamic sex life is to concentrate solely on technique. There is certainly nothing wrong with learning sexual technique--especially the basics--but technique by itself is not the answer.

A good relationship is important for good sex. Psychiatrist and bestselling author Anthony Pietropinto and coauthor Jacqueline Simenauer write, "When emotional issues involving anger or a need to control are encountered on the road to sexual fulfillment, the journey is interrupted until these conflicts are resolved."{2}

Many sex therapists agree that great technique does not guarantee great sex. They emphasize that the qualities that contribute to a successful sex life are the same ones that contribute to a successful interpersonal relationship. Qualities like love, commitment and communication.

She Probably Wants You To Ask Her Out.

There are literally billions of single women out there at the moment. Go ahead, add them up. Billions. Have you ever wasted time, money and oxygen on one that you never even had a chance with? Of course you didn’t realize it at the time, but yeah, you probably have. And the really annoying thing is that all the clues were right there in front of you, but you didn’t acknowledge them because you were so focused on the prize.

Well, you never need to make that mistake again, because we’re here to spell out the top 10 signs she’s not interested in you. Sure, it’s a hard thing to accept, but you’ll be much better off if you can spot these signs early on. You’ll also need to consider that these signs may come to you at any stage of the courtship: the day you ask her out, on thefirst date or perhaps even a few dates in. When any one of these signs she’s not interested do creep up, it should be your cue to move along and set your sights on one of the other billion girls out there.

Variety Is The Spice of SEX Life

Perhaps your sex life has become routine. Boredom is an industrial-strength sexual desire dampener. Even the most highly sexed person can begin to feel ho-hum about sex if it's always the same old thing. If this rings true of your sexual relationship, it might be time for you to try to spice things up a bit. You need to be creative to avoid sexual boredom. Try a new location, rent a hotel room, experiment with new positions, buy new lingerie, rent a sexy video, try a hot bath, candles and a massage. Cast your inhibitions to the wind.

Kellie complained that she was losing desire because she was having trouble feeling aroused. It took her considerably longer to have an orgasm, and when she did, it wasn't as strong as orgasms had been in the past. She found herself feeling more and more disinterested each time her husband approached her. She wondered if it was because of her age -- she was 52 -- and whether she should consider taking hormone supplements.

Kellie was menopausal, and it was entirely possible that biological causes were at the root of her sexual difficulties and lack of desire. However, I also wondered about the quality of her sexual relationship with her husband. Kellie confessed to feeling bored. Their lovemaking had become routine and unexciting. Because her mind would drift during their sexual encounters, she found it challenging to maintain feelings of arousal.

Sexually Satisfied

If you desire to add a little spice to the bedroom you should not fear taking a few steps to be sexually bold. Your partner will prefer you speak your mind when it concerns sex as long as you do so in a respectful yet light-hearted manner. Doing so increases your chances of a healthy and mutually satisfying relationship.

Step 1:
Ask your partner if they are willing to experiment with new techniques in your love life. If you want to be sexually bold you have to start with a solid basis of communication.

Step 2:
Be playful and have a good sense of humor when discussing sex with your partner. It's okay if you feel a little uncomfortable as you first broach the subject.

Step 3:
Include romance in your effort to be sexually bold. Everyone likes to feel as though they are being appreciated for what it is they are agreeing to do.

Step 4:
Talk about your sexual experiences together after you've stepped away from the bedroom. Be willing to listen to one another and make adjustments to suit you and your partner's comfort level.

Step 5:
Keep trying new things together in order to keep your love life exciting and dynamic. If you want to be sexually bold you'll need to show a little creativity.

Step 6:
Remember that to be sexually bold, a lot more is required than mere bedsmanship. The psychological and emotional surroundings are just as important in an effort to establish a fulfilling experience.

Understanding Your Partner's Sexuality

Sexual expression plays a huge role in relationships. It is way for people to show their lovers what they feel about them through passionate and intimate ways. As wonderful as sexuality can be, it is often misunderstood, which is why the average couple faces sexual conflicts and challenges at some point during their relationship. This is no way is a generalization of men and women, but the truth is, men and women handle their sexuality differently - on an average.

If couples spend some time to truly learn and understand their partner's sexuality, they can build a happier and healthier sex life together, instead of facing the conflicts that stall their relationship from blossoming further.

The ABCs of Great Sex

A - Accept and appreciate your partner for who they are. Avoid doing the same thing over and over. Great sex should be an adventure! Aromatic fragrances are acceptable in the bedroom.

B - Believe in your ability to satisfy your partner, then do it. Savor, wallow and bask in the bliss of coming together.

C - Be Considerate of your partner's needs. Stop when they say, "No!"

D - Disappear ocassionaly. It's okay to occasionally want to be alone while in a relationship. Daydream about your next sexcapade together and watch desire build. Try an afternoon delight!

E - Enjoy something different for a change of pace. It's exciting and envigorating. Explicit and energetic exploits empower the sexual experience. Hold your partner in a loving embrace at least once each day.

F - Forgive your partner when things go wrong. Not forgiving shows up in the bedroom. Always strive to fulfill your lover's desires. Asking, "Wanna fool around?" is a great question.

G - Generosity. Always give more than you take. Guys, always make sure your partner comes first (if you know what I mean). Pleasure her with gusto.

H - Share the housework. Nowhere is it written that housework should be only and always a woman's job. (And the women all say, "Amen!"). Being hedonistic in the boudoir keeps love alive!

I - Investigate new ways of making love. It pumps new excitement into the relationship and keeps it fresh. Inovate! Be creative.

J - Just do it. Do what, you say? Hmmmmm. If you have to ask, click here!

K - Passionately kissing your lover is often the magic connection to great sex.

L - Love. Tell your partner you love them. . . often. Say it aloud. Say it while making love. Do things that help them know you do. Lusting after your lover is a good thing.

M - Masturbate and let your partner watch. It's okay to take care of yourself when you are alone too.

N - Never do anything sexually that you and your partner cannot agree upon. NEVER!

O - Oral sex creates excitement. Open your eyes. Watch what is going on in your relationship. Handle it with care.

P - Practice does not make you perfect, it only makes you better. Be prepared for your next tumble in the hay; have candles, lubricants, sex toys, condoms, etc., handy. Passionately whisper words of love while making love. Pleasure and passion are the keywords.

Q - Quit being shy. Ask for what you want. Your partner cannot read your mind. Quietly basking in the "afterglow;" tenderly only holding each other can express Love far deeper than can words.

R - Respect your partner. Mutual respect in your relationship is an absolute necessity for it to grow. Read and study sexual techniques. Get racy, rank, risque and raunchy every once in awhile. Relish the moment!

S - Sexuality & spirituality go together. Making love is the highest spiritual connection you can make with each other. Stimulate your lover. Slow down. Snuggle. Take your time. Savor the moment. Soft seductive sounds - music, soft moans, etc., - can add some spice to your most passionate moments.

T - Trust is the foundation of a healthy love relationship. Without it there can be no effective communication. Without communication there can be no genuine intimacy.

U - Understand what your partner needs sexually. Ask, then do and do it unwaveringly.

V - Visualize making love to your partner before you do. See what you would like to have happen. Vary the velocity of your strokes, fondling, caressing, licking and touching; vigorous, then gentle, vigorous, then gentle!

W - Keep a watchful eye on your relationship outside of the bedroom. You will see that it makes a BIG difference as to what goes on "in" the bedroom.

X - Xcite your lover with the unexpected. Xcellerate, then slow down. Watch an x-rated movie together.

Y - Yield to the moment while making love. Surrender. Say, "yes" to Love!

Z - Zest for adventure in the relationship. Zero in on pleasure with geniune zeal.

Increased Blood Flow

Sex helps increase the blood flow to your brain and to all other organs of your body. Increased heart rate and deep breathing accounts for the improvement in circulation.

As fresh blood supply arrives, your cells, organs and muscles are saturated with fresh oxygen and hormones, and as the used blood is removed, you also remove waste products that cause fatigue and even illness

Maintaining Ideal Body Weight

There are 3500 calories in a pound of fat. For every 3500 calories you burn (that you do not replace with food!) you will lose one pound of fat.

Sexual intercourse burns approximately 150 calories per half hour. Here’s how that stacks up against some other activities that may be part of your fitness regime: yoga 114 calories per half hour, dancing - rock 129, walking - 3mph 153, weight training 153, canoeing - 2mph 153, volleyball 174.

According to one survey reported by the Ottawa Citizen, Canadians on average have sex 7.33 times per month, lasting approximately 24.4 minutes. That means that “Joe Canada” is burning off more than 10 thousand calories a year, or about 3 pounds, in a not particularly active sex life.

Considering that people put weight on gradually, slowly gaining 5-10 pounds per year until they are overweight, it’s not unrealistic to assume that regular sexual activity is one way to help maintain a healthy body weight.

Sex is Good for your Health

Lose weight. Reduce stress. Lower your cholesterol level. Improve your circulation. Live longer. Stay younger.

Sounds like an ad for a new wonder drug right? In fact it’s a partial list of the benefits of humanity’s oldest and most pleasurable pastime - sex.

People in recovery from alcoholism, addiction or codependency may benefit from this discussion and be able to recognize the benefits as they emerge from drunk or drugged sexual life.

Most of us are aware of the feel-good benefits of sex while we’re engaged in it, but do you also know that there are benefits which carry on after the sweaty bodies have dried and the sweet talk has reverted to sports? For instance: